The Lost Art of Conversation

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I hate small talk;
but if it means I am getting one step closer to knowing
who you really are,
then I guess it’s worth it.
Nowadays the doors are closed,
not because of incapability but simply because we choose it;
gone are the days
when people would engage in deep conversation—
favorite movie,
a casual comment on the weather;
that’s all good and relevant but what about insecurities and fears?
What about things that keep us up at night?
I’d like to think there is still a chance,
to pull a plain cheese from the oven just to make somebody laugh—
there is heaviness in apathy,
there is heaviness in silence.




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50 Replies to “The Lost Art of Conversation”

  1. Sanaa, I despise small talk too. It’s dreadful, it’s scary, and worst of all…

    It’s BORING.

    Haha. But, I understand at the same time it can be helpful into getting to know someone more. I’ve been through that too. This is so visceral, realistic, and saddening especially with the pandemic. I really love these lines:

    “to pull a plain cheese from the oven just to make somebody laugh—
    there is heaviness in apathy,
    there is heaviness in silence.”

    Beautifully innovative, real and raw. Stunning work, yet again.

  2. I don’t mind it because it means getting to know someone better. I miss long and deep conversations too. Social media is not helping at all. Your last 2 lines summed it up very well.

  3. Oh, that heaviness – I feel it too! And I also hate small talk. Really difficult to break down barriers and start talking about more meaningful things without it though. A poem for our times!

  4. I’m not so good with small talk either, Sanaa, or at deeper conversation these days, unless I know the other person well. I find it easier to write. This is probably because of the current situation and the fact that I have become used to my own company. But there is indeed heaviness in silence, and I’d like to get back into the habit of chatting again.

  5. I think we grow to value the small talk (especially if it’s all we can get) but I think we still engage in it in the hope that it will snowball into something important …

  6. I prefer conversations of substance over small talk but small talk is what greases the wheels of community so it’s good to cultivate some tolerance of it. I echo what Ron said, “No talk is small talk.”
    I agree with you Sanaa about the oppression of silence in relation to another, especially when one’s mind runs to conjecture, which it sometimes does. Good poem that opens the topic for discussion.

  7. ‘pull a plain cheese from the oven, just to make someone laugh’ – is such a fun line that breaks the serious tone of what’s gone before & contrast with the ‘heaviness’ in the final couplet. Lovely light playful writing.

  8. there is heaviness in apathy,
    there is heaviness in silence.

    Given the abhorrence or inconvenience of small talk it is still worthwhile considering the torture of tolerating the above. Agreed Sanaa!


  9. You are so right on this one. I miss the conversations and interactions of the past. It is like we all ended up in Russia where someone is always watching only this time it is Covid that is watching and waiting for us to slip up! Great poem Sanaa!

  10. I like this topic of what makes meaningful conversation. The art of conversing has not been lost. There are still many out there who want to share and listen from the heart. I am one of them.
    Thanks for bringing this up as an opportunity to reflect on habitual ways of being that we can always choose to change if we want to.

  11. This resonates deeply, especially now. Easy comments placed on social media mean nothing when you are looking for true, meaningful, caring conversation. I find small talk more difficult than completely opening up and laying my feelings out to the world, as strange as that seems. A candid and comfortable flow of thoughts from you, Sanaa and I really enjoyed it.

  12. The warmth of your sincerity and genuineness of your soul came shining through in this sweet poem. These are lonely and volatile times we’re living in. It can be hard to open up and make ourselves vulnerable when we have been burned before. 🙏

  13. I enjoyed this. Both have welcome attributes. While deep conversation can be rewarding, there are times when the diversion of small talk can lessen a weight that seems too overwhelming.

  14. First, I’m glad I learned how to comment here—it was a journey! 🙂 Second, not only is heaviness found in silence and apathy, but also in just about everything we do or think during these pandemic days. And third, sometimes all we can muster is small talk, but surely it will sustain us until we are able to feast once again on those deep, soul-nourishing conversations.

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